MY ILLUMINATED LIFE;
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
EnnEAgrAm
i remembered doing one 2-3 years ago. can't remember what was my type. checked my email and tot it would be interesting to do it again and see wats my type. didnt expect mine to be humanitarian. but reflecting on it made me realise it's kinda true. here's my report.
THE HUMANITARIAN
Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth. — Muhammad Ali
As a Type 2, The Humanitarian, you can feel strongly that your purpose on earth is to be of service to others and to make a difference in the world. Indeed, it's likely that you have a very clear image of yourself as a helper. Whether you take on responsibility in your family, your community, or on a global level, you may need to feel that you're having a positive impact for your life to feel balanced and right. As a result, you probably get involved in a great variety of projects, sometimes over-extending yourself because you have trouble saying no. You may figure that there's no way you can refuse when there's so much to be done in the world. This kind of caring is an admirable trait. Just make sure that you leave yourself time to rest.
Although you typically spend a great amount of time and energy helping others, people shouldn't mistake you for being totally selfless. On the contrary, you probably know that you're willing to use your influence over other people to get what you want. After all, it may only seem fair that you would be on the receiving end once and a while. However, the best way to get what you need is to be a good guardian of your own inner resources and property. Know that you can be a giving person and still have some things you keep for yourself.
Like everyone, to some extent your personality has been shaped by past experiences. One reason you may identify with Humanitarians, Enneagram Type 2, is if you were often praised for being a good child. Having a few formative experiences where you got what you wanted by pleasing others may have caused you to continue your people-pleasing ways into adulthood. Another possibility is that during childhood you may have had to raise a parent's spirit by serving as an emotional crutch. If this is true for you, it's not surprising that you developed a need to help out emotionally during hard times.
How your type work for (or against) you
When you're feeling your best, you probably have faith in the goodness of life, sensing that everyone's needs will be ultimately satisfied by a force greater than yourself. At these times, giving to yourself can be the greatest reward, whether you're treating yourself to a special present or simply taking time out to relax and enjoy your day. By nurturing yourself this way, you create the necessary conditions to reach your full potential. You also store up more energy to help others by taking good care of yourself.
However you aren't likely to be at your best every day. During the times when you're feeling your worst, you can become over invested in being indispensable and having people need you. You probably even feel that you know what others' need more than they know themselves. Strangely enough, when you're experiencing these feelings, you may find yourself disappointing others or becoming unhelpful. This failure to meet others needs can lead you to an even lower opinion of yourself. Know that such a downward spiral is caused by a belief that you cannot be loved without being needed. In possessing this worldview, you can find yourself wholly focused on what other people want while repressing your own needs and desires.
How can you avoid feeling your worst and start feeling your best? Above all, pay attention to what you need and want out of life. Not only that — but start asking for it. It might be hard at first, but try to be more open to receiving help, advice, and gifts from others. Understand that you are an individual who deserves to be loved and helped without needing to give anything in return. Other people get satisfaction from being able to help too. Start to welcome their assistance. In addition, try to spend time developing your sense of self and your independent interests. Focus on things that have nothing to do with needing to contribute to someone else's well-being or success. It's okay to be centered on you.
Compatibility in Love
As a Type 2, The Humanitarian, your typical strategy when looking for love likely involves fulfilling others' needs in exchange for love. To do this, you can make continued efforts to anticipate what others want from you and to wow them with special efforts on their behalf. In essence, you try to be indispensable. You want any date of yours to know what a great partner they've discovered. You may attempt to do this by trying to create really memorable experiences for your date — with little concern for your own enjoyment. You may also focus conversation on the person you're dating rather than on yourself.
At times, these methods will work like a charm. When they don't, you're likely to feel a bit rejected.At times when you feel unloved, you'll probably hold resentment against others for not seeing how valuable and lovable you are to them. In a move toward greater self-acceptance, try to understand that your self-worth doesn't depend on your ability to fulfill the desires of others. Create some space for yourself to appreciate your own identity, aside from caring for others. You can do this by not giving more than is needed, listening to your own needs, and allowing yourself to receive from others. Let yourself feel worthy of love and attention, no matter how much you give, or do not give, to others.
Compatibility at Work
You'll usually do your best in positions where you get to interact with lots of people. This leverages your ability to draw people out and engage with them. In management positions, you can be a caring and thoughtful leader. You seem to excel in encouraging others to reach their potential and advance within an organization. Fields you're most likely to be suited for include social services, fundraising, and human resources.When you're considering employment with a new company, one of the most important things for you to think about is how well you'll get along with your potential co-workers.
mUttOns bLeAtEd at... 2/28/2007 06:35:00 AM
